This is why You Should not Look for a Purpose in Your Life

Everyone should find the purpose of his life- this is what we have always been told. Books, elders, teachers, mentors and anyone else we happen to meet, always tell us about importance of having a purpose in your life.

I remember this incidence which took place some four years ago. I happened to interact with a reputed doctor, named Parul Saheba. A talk of her was organized in Pune and before it began, I was hosting her in the guest room. We spoke for some time and she came to know about me and my blog as well. She was quite excited about all these things.

“What is the purpose behind doing so many things you do?” she asked me.

“There is no purpose as such, I just do all these things because I feel like doing them.” I replied.

She was very upset by this answer.

“You are very young now, grow a bit older, get married and then we will talk on this again.” She said and we resumed our discussion.

Today, I have grown up a bit, I am married. I am unfortunately not in touch with Dr. Saheba, but I would have loved to tell her that even today, the activities that I do, are out of no purpose.

mandar purposeDo we really need a purpose in our life? The answer is ‘no’, simply because all purposes are created by our ego. In general, society believes that purposes keep us focused. But if we observe all the human beings around who have done something of value in their lives, they  did it out of love and not out of purpose. So, when I say that we do not need a purpose in our lives, I do not mean to say that we have to live a life that is as per our whims and swings. I am talking against purpose because purpose keeps us away from discovering love, which is the real driver. Love and not the purpose liberates creative energy.

Whatever little good work I have done in my own life, it was never out of purpose, but always out of love. Ego needs something to hang on; it needs something through which it can continue to be. A purpose serves this purpose very well.

I too had many time many purposes in my own life. Though not fully, now I am getting a little understanding about how this all works. Once you have purpose, your mind is limited to the it. Many times, we ourselves are not aware of the hidden purpose behind many of our activities. A purpose brings frustration because ego can never be fulfilled even if we satisfy all of our purposes.

Meditation certainly helps one to see this. It helps to free the mind of all the purposes. When one lives this purposeless life for a while, he starts experiencing the magic and balance which comes out of love. A life lived with love and not purpose is worth living.

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Some of my friends…

Someone has said that success of your life depends on the friends you have. I would like to correct it a bit. The success of your life depends on the friends and enemies you have. Let it be. When I start thinking about my friends, I realize that I do not have a single ordinary friend. All of them extra ordinary in some way or other. For me, friends and enemies are the same because both of them teach you many subtle things.

Today, my mood tells me to dig up some of these best friends. I have a friend so truthful that I do not deserve his friendship. He left everything, even his formal education for his quest for knowledge, poetry and spirituality. It is really great to have such a friend. I have a friend who proposed me and she again called back in half hour to say that it was a mistake.  I also have a friend who left a luxurious job because he did not like it from his heart. I really respect such authentic friends.

A friend of mine was according to me most deserving candidate to crack UPSC. Unfortunately, he could not crack.  When I met this guy next day, he was radiant, as he always used to be. He had not lost his confidence in himself even a bit. Today, he is doing really well. I like such friends who have full faith in themselves.

There are many people who say that they are my friends but I really wonder if I deserve such friends. To give an example, a famous flute player introduced us to some his guests as his friends. Do we deserve such friends who left everything for the inner call of music? But, these friends are the lighthouses which show the road.

One of my best friends in school ran away from his house as his parents were constantly forcing him to study engineering and he wanted to do arts. Keep it up friend. The fire is burning. It does not matter who is right and who is wrong. What matters is, you should be burning with the fire.

Many of my friends have changed over the time as everyone (including me) does. Some changes are good, some of them not so good.   While observing all these changes, one thing constantly keeps on coming up to me- everyone is following a path which is predefined. You, I or anyone cannot alter it even a bit. Many times there remains nothing in our hands other than watching helplessly a friend getting spoilt…

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Find your focus

A long night of thoughtfulness gives me many answers. I love night because it answers my questions. Not all, but even a few questions being answered is enough for me. I don’t want all of the rains, a few soothing drops satisfy me.

For whom I live this life? This was the long question which was being answered by the night. If a constant enquiry is made, answers come from void. Void does not exist somewhere else, but, you are so united with the enquiry, that inside you, you get a void. So, this was the question. Does life need focus? If yes, who should be the focus? Is this focus inside or is it outside?

Night answered all of these. It gave me many strange answers. No, life does not have a focus but, but, to reach this point, we need some focus point. Now, where this focus point lies? Inside me or outside me?

I would say, grossly, there two kinds of spiritually inclined people. One kind is those who love themselves and like to live for themselves. The other is those who like to live for someone they love.  The wonder is, everything moves on love.

The person on his spiritual journey has to decide what his attitude is. And then whatever tendencies of him come against this attitude, he should work on them. For example, if I love myself, then to fulfill my needs, I should be able to fight with even god. If I like to live for my loved one, I should be able to leave away all the heavens and pleasures on earth.

I have found my focus. Have you?