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This is why You Should not Look for a Purpose in Your Life

Everyone should find the purpose of his life- this is what we have always been told. Books, elders, teachers, mentors and anyone else we happen to meet, always tell us about importance of having a purpose in your life.

I remember this incidence which took place some four years ago. I happened to interact with a reputed doctor, named Parul Saheba. A talk of her was organized in Pune and before it began, I was hosting her in the guest room. We spoke for some time and she came to know about me and my blog as well. She was quite excited about all these things.

“What is the purpose behind doing so many things you do?” she asked me.

“There is no purpose as such, I just do all these things because I feel like doing them.” I replied.

She was very upset by this answer.

“You are very young now, grow a bit older, get married and then we will talk on this again.” She said and we resumed our discussion.

Today, I have grown up a bit, I am married. I am unfortunately not in touch with Dr. Saheba, but I would have loved to tell her that even today, the activities that I do, are out of no purpose.

mandar purposeDo we really need a purpose in our life? The answer is ‘no’, simply because all purposes are created by our ego. In general, society believes that purposes keep us focused. But if we observe all the human beings around who have done something of value in their lives, they  did it out of love and not out of purpose. So, when I say that we do not need a purpose in our lives, I do not mean to say that we have to live a life that is as per our whims and swings. I am talking against purpose because purpose keeps us away from discovering love, which is the real driver. Love and not the purpose liberates creative energy.

Whatever little good work I have done in my own life, it was never out of purpose, but always out of love. Ego needs something to hang on; it needs something through which it can continue to be. A purpose serves this purpose very well.

I too had many time many purposes in my own life. Though not fully, now I am getting a little understanding about how this all works. Once you have purpose, your mind is limited to the it. Many times, we ourselves are not aware of the hidden purpose behind many of our activities. A purpose brings frustration because ego can never be fulfilled even if we satisfy all of our purposes.

Meditation certainly helps one to see this. It helps to free the mind of all the purposes. When one lives this purposeless life for a while, he starts experiencing the magic and balance which comes out of love. A life lived with love and not purpose is worth living.

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By Mandar Karanjkar

Mandar Karanjkar is author, motivational speaker and consultant based in Pune. Mandar works with handful of organizations helping them with strategy, communication and culture. Mandar is trained in Indian Classical Music over a decade. He is a classical singer and flute player.

Mandar has written columns for many reputed newspapers. Engineer by profession, he conducts workshops and delivers talks on subjects as wide as strategy, innovation, online marketing, spirituality, Kabir, Zen etc.

Mandar is a published author.

3 replies on “This is why You Should not Look for a Purpose in Your Life”

Quite insightful article Mandar. What you are saying on similar lines of “karmanye va adhikaraste…” isn’t it?
As I understand purpose here means an objective, goal , “faal” in life which arises out of ego. To love could also be the purpose, perhaps more subjective, devoid of ego.
Quite interesting interesting indeed.

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